emotional health

What I Do When I Experience Feelings of "Overwhelm" Setting In

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There was a moment today where I felt the familiar feeling of extreme overwhelms tart to well up inside me again. You know what I mean - your heart races, your gut turns, you want to cry from exhaustion but you can’t work up the tears - it’s just all too much sometimes. Maybe you even bury your face in your hands and wince. The to-do list lengthens in your mind as you run through everything that requires your time and attention.

If these feelings come up often for you, you overcommit yourself often, or you feel as if life keeps “happening to you”, there may be some deeper level healing work we can do one on one, so be sure to reach out when you’ve finished reading this post.

But for now, I want to walk you through what I do to heal and work through overwhelm in the moment.

Basic Steps to Reversing the Onset of Overwhelm

First, when you first feel your heart rate rise, stop and ask yourself “what’s required of me *this moment*”? Are these things that are overwhelming me so greatly in this moment, are they due right now at this very second?

If the answer is no (which it usually is no!) then you likely have a moment to spare and stop and breathe.

Stop and tune into your body’s physical response in the moment. For me, today, I discovered my body was very tired and worn down from what we’d done the past few days. Family events, weddings, normal work schedules, parenting, packing for a move, and late nights writing course material for my upcoming membership. I was tired.

I ran through all those things I had experienced and or accomplished in the past few days. It had been a lot and it had been good. I was proud of myself. So I stopped to acknowledge that I was tired, fatigued, and was in need of a break.

Then I checked the calendar.

Awesome. Clear night tonight.

So instead of filling it with additional tasks, which I might typically do, I decided that in order to get through the next few weeks (which were the cause of my overwhelm!) I was going to need a little TLC tonight.

I tuned in and asked myself (asked my body) what would feel best tonight. A night out with a friend? A night in? My body resonated with how great a simple warm bath, a face mask, freshly painted nails a cup of tea and getting to bed early would feel.

Done! Date with myself, scheduled.

The Result

Doing this would better equip me to get up and face tomorrow’s challenges, the upcoming responsibilities I knew would be mine to manage. Instantly the feelings of overwhelm were greatly diminished, even close to gone in that moment. I knew what I had to do in this day, in this moment. I was going to rest up and give my body the care it was asking for to get move forward.

The Body’s Naturally Wise Internal Messaging System

Often, overwhelm is simply the body’s physical response to tell you to STOP! Slow down, tune in, rest, recharge. If your body is responding with overwhelm or signaling that something is “too much”, guess what… it probably IS! Your body is incredibly wise. Take a moment to listen to it so it doesn’t have to find alternative ways to get your attention.

Ive been through too many times in my life where I continually ignored my body’s internal messaging system. Feeling overwhelmed? I self sabotaged with panic. Feeling exhausted? I’d reach for caffeine.

Disregard your body’s simple, profound messaging system long enough, and your body may even do what I did, which is start to physically shut things down to get your attention.

A simple alarm going off in your internal messaging system that something is “overwhelming” or “too much”, simply take a second to ask your body what it needs in that moment. Ask your mind and soul what is needed. Often, its some version of rest. So whatever version of rest sounds BEST to you in the moment, do that.

If this seems too simple, I challenge you to try it.

It has taken time for me to love and appreciate myself, who I am, and how I move through life enough to get to the point where now this feels natural to me to walk through this with myself.

If it feels foreign to you, uncomfortable, or like it doesn’t work the first few times you try it, keep at it.

Always begin with a few deep breaths. Because oxygen truly is anxiety’s greatest physical antidote. And from there, ask yourself what’s required of you *this moment*. Because often the things that are overwhelming us are projections into the future and fears of the unknowns or of how we are going to “get through”. You must bring yourself back to this present moment. Stand in the grass if you can (this is a grounding practice!). Tune into your body and ask it what it needs right now, and act accordingly. Showing this level of love and care to yourself in a moment of overwhelm can drastically shift what happens next, and the rest of your day will likely thank you for taking that moment.

Have you walked through these steps or steps similar to these before in a moment of overcoming overwhelm? Let me know in the comments!

How to feel happier and be more grounded on a daily basis (and get out of your own way!)

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This is one of my favorite topics.

Because often, for most of us, even if we are going through the most difficult of situations, there are some basic tools we can have in our tool box that can help us feel more grounded, and over all just feel HAPPIER on a daily basis, no matter what’s going on around us.

I loved recording this episode because this list of tips I offer I so simple, there’s no prep, no big program, just 8 simple yet powerful ways to check in with yourself on how you’re feeling, if you want to and are ready to feel better about your life right now, RIGHT HERE, right where you’re at!

So without further ado, sign in to listen to this list of 8 check-in style tools you can fit into your happiness toolbox right now to feel happier and more grounded today.

Time to let go of the holiday guilt and create a new kind of health reset

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Okay, health minded mamas, it’s time to let go of any ounce of guilt you may be experiencing over what you ate during the holidays (or all those greens we didn’t eat!). You feel me?

I’m writing this on January 2nd, 2019 has officially begun. This is the day most people begin their new year’s resolutions, hit the gym, and the local juice bar, and plan their weight loss meal plans. These are all GREAT things. You and I both know that.

But you and I don’t have to let our faithful dedication to our health and wellness take away from the love and great times spent with family and friends during the holidays.

My Goal as Your Health Coach

As a health coach, my goal is to help break the idea in the health industry that the picture of health looks like a green smoothie touting body builder taking photos on the ocean-side (although that is amazing, and kudos if that’s you), but I want to help you celebrate the health journey, and that means embracing the moment right now, and where you’re at.

I want to help you be the healthiest you RIGHT NOW, today. And you can be, even BEFORE you reach your weight loss goals, or any goals at all. Let’s discuss how…

What Matters Most to our Health

Our primary sources of nourishment don’t just come from the food we eat, although that’s of course deeply important. Our primary sources of nourishment come through our ability to rest, the positive and supportive relationships we have, how much we enjoy our career, and if we are able to live out our passions. Our health depends on how we wake up and approach every new day, how we navigate challenges, and how we treat ourselves and talk to ourselves and care for ourselves day in and day out.

The food we eat is intrinsically important. Our body reproduces its cells from the energy and compounds in the very food we eat. We literally are what we eat, as our cells rebuild. But, we are also more than our physical body.

In the health industry we are daily discovering that the mind body connection is more complex than we’ve ever thought before. Your are, essentially, more than just what you eat.

We are what we eat, and we are what we think, and we are what we believe… and so on.

Creating a health reset today - a mental shift

So, my friends, give yourself permission to stop feeling guilty or stressed about how you should be eating. Is this important? YES. Absolutely. And let’s discuss that together and find the plan that works perfectly for you. But even more important to me, today, is that you and I treat ourselves with kindness, show up for the people we love, see challenges as opportunity, step out of toxic relationships, step into new hobbies that feed us, unplug, pray, run, dance, read, and sleep… all these beautiful things and more that support our health first and foremost.

If you’re feeling guilt from the holidays and are stressing about how to get healthy in 2019, stop and do these two things:

  • express deep gratitude for the loved ones you spent time with over the holidays, and express deep gratitude to yourself for showing up and loving the people close to you in your life

  • decide that today you will be kind to yourself, and love yourself where you are at right now, and that whatever steps you take toward better health and wellness today will be to beautifully support your body and soul because you’re worth it and you’re already enough.

Want to chat more about your health and wellness in 2019? Are you looking for a holistic approach that helps you make sense of all the important facets in your life that support your health and wellness like your family, your career, your sleep habits, your hobbies, your workouts, and your food? Let’s connect!